Frugal Expat

An expat's journey in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates

New Breed of “OFW” Motherhood

My Son "ZJ"

 
After giving birth to my son “ZJ”, my life has never been the same again.  If weekends before were spent in the malls or out of town escapades, now it is spent on Skype because it is the only time I can bond “online” with my son.  

For those of you who are not familiar with the setting of Filipino families, let me give you a glimpse of it.  A big chunk of our population is working overseas. You can find an OFW (Overseas Filipino Worker) soul across the globe working as a nurse, waitress, housemaids, engineers, service crews and so on.

Oftentimes we trade our professions with the opportunity to work abroad hoping that we can give our family back home a better standard of living. It is not only our professions that we sacrifice but as well the reality of leaving your family for extended period of time.

There are OFWs who left their professions as doctors of medicine and instead worked as a nurse or nurse aid abroad because the pay is better. We have also OFWs who are teachers by profession and they leave this job to be housemaids abroad. Again, for the same reason  - the pay is better.

As for my case, I have been an OFW as early as 22 years old. I was single then and my motivation to leave my family was to explore the world and to earn more in order to help them.

Now that I am parent, my hubby and I have even deeper desire to give our son a better standard of living. We do not want him to experience the hardships that we went through while growing up.

And we know, this is not possible if we will work back home. So for the time being, we left our little boy at the good hands of my Mum and sister back home but we are working to take them very soon here in Abu Dhabi.

Until it happens, I am monitoring my son’s progress through Skype. Seeing him online eases my longing and the thought that he is better off back home makes our sacrifices worth it.

I miss you Z….

Cultural Difference

I was having a casual chat with my colleague and we were talking about personal relationships. Then suddenly she whispered and asked, “How did you know that he was the right man to marry?”.

I was stunned to hear such question from a 24 years old married woman. Then I looked at her face but I could not find any hint of a joke. Later I realized that she was really serious in asking me that question.

Of course, I gave my usual answer. You will know it in your heart if he is the right man for you.

This is the beauty of working in a multicultural office because you will learn to great extent the beauty and uniqueness of each culture. What seems to be normal in my culture can be sometimes deemed as taboo in other culture.

My colleague has an arranged marriage and never had any boyfriends or never dated other men in her life. Thus, she popped out that question.

How to Deal with Change in your life?

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I attended a work related training last week and I walked out in that training room remembering one thing – the “SARAH Model” of dealing change.

Let’s face it. We know that change is the only constant thing in our life yet every time it happens either in our work or personal life, we hit the panic button. Oftentimes we actually do not like to go through the process of change, right? Generally we are happy being stuck in our little comfy world like our current job and just the thought of changing our job can trigger fear because of the uncertainty it brings.

During our workshop, our speaker presented the SARAH Model. This model explains the logical process in dealing with change.

S – Shock

A – Anger

R – Resistance or Rejection

A – Acceptance

H – Happiness or Hope

Let us take a simple case of a break up. One day your boyfriend of two years just walks in and declares that your relationship is over.

Your initial reaction is “shock”, right? How can your boyfriend just dump you like that? What happen?

Then, “anger” sinks in. You hate him for leaving you.

After that, you “resist or reject” the change that has happened in your personal life. Sometimes people stay in this cycle of “Shock – Anger – Resistance” for sometime before they settle in “acceptance” of the new reality.

Once “acceptance” is embraced, then there is happiness or hope. Perhaps hope that you will find someone else better than your previous boyfriend or happiness that you didn’t end up with him because he was no good at all.

So next time you face change in your life, think about the SARAH model.

Getting Rid of Bad “Spending” Habits

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I am glad that somehow I passed already the stage of ignorance about personal finance. I mean, I am not an expert on that subject but I would say that I am better now on it compared two years ago.

Thanks for the tons free online reading materials about personal finance. My goal is to be debt free and to establish passive source of incomes. I am not yet there but it is on the process. It takes time get rid of old and bad “spending” habits.

I have been working on my “financial freedom” goal for the last two years. It takes a lot of discipline and sacrifice.

Compulsive Buying. Sometimes it is just difficult to ignore the red “SALE” tag. It is like a magnet. When I am in the mall and I see a “SALE”, I cannot resist the urge to rush and to look around. I have always this hope to find something really nice at a very reasonable price.

Now I still shop but only for my “needs” although occasionally I cave in to buying my whims. Before I hit the mall, I already have the list on what I need to purchase. In this way, I avoid compulsive buying even it is a sale.

Cash Diet. It is not an easy journey but possible. I closed all my credit cards last year. Now I am only keeping prepaid card because I need it sometimes for online purchases.

 

If you do not have discipline, then credit cards can be destructive to your personal finance health. When you are spending and you are using credit card, you do not feel the money getting out from your hands until you receive your monthly credit card bill.

 

Also, there is a greater possibility to spend more because the expenditures become unnoticed. Unless you are on a cash diet, you monitor every penny that goes out from your pocket.

 

Simple Living. Honestly I gave up already buying, planning and dreaming fancy things. For me now, it is all about functionality.

 

Financial freedom is not an easy journey especially if you are already trapped in spiraling debts. However, it is not yet too late and there will always be ways to improve your financial situation. It is just a matter of choice.

New Year.. New Decision..

I could not trace back on what prompted me but I made a firm decision on the first day of 2012.

“Now is the time to live the life I always wanted to and to take bold decisions to make it happen.”

For the last three years most of the decisions I made in my life were anchored on fear and inhibitions prioritizing security first while compromising my happiness. It is not always the best scenario and oftentimes I linger on sadness and endless grumbling. Sad, but that’s what I was going through.

This year I want live with Steve Jacobs’ words, “Your work is going to fill a large part of your life. And the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you have not found it yet, keep looking. As all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it”.

So now, no more whining about work… It is time to address the issues and hopefully I will find something that will make my work life more meaningful.

New Beginning..

I have not opened my WordPress account for sometime. To be exact, my last post was made 119 days ago. Many things happened for the last few months which kept me away from blogging.

The highlight was the birth of my baby boy “Zeoh James” last September 17, 2011. Since then everyday was an adventure and exciting journey until I flew back to Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates last November 4, 2011 to resume my office work while facing the sad consequence of leaving my 6 weeks old ZJ at the good and loving hands of my Mum and sister back home.

My son "Zeoh James"

After giving birth to ZJ, life has never been the same again. Life is more meaningful but painful at the same time. Everyday I long to simply walk away from my corporate life in return for a fulltime job of a doting Mum to my son.

But I have to face reality.

Anyway, I do not want to be emotional on the first day of 2012 as I had already been in the last few hours of 2011. I hang on to my faith that I will be with ZJ very soon.

On the brighter side, I made a decision today that I will be blogging again. Honestly, writing has never been in my things-to-do for the last few months. Since I came back to work, I am working 14-16 hours almost everyday thus when the weekends come, all I yearn is to sleep and rest.

So, what I hope for 2012? Many things actually in which I believe the bottom line is almost the same with everybody else – “Good health, Prosperity and Happiness”.

Happy New Year and hope to see you around!

The Importance of Tracking Your Daily Expenses

My sister's old & worn out diaries for tracking her daily expenses

It is such a shame to admit but I learned the importance of tracking my daily expenses through my sister who is 9 years younger than me. :D

When I had my short vacation last year, I saw her thick and worn-out diary. The pages were full of stapled receipts and notes with figures on it. Curious, I asked my sister.

I came to know that she has been tracking her daily expenses as early as 10 years old but took the serious turn of detailing every expense only at the age of 15. She continued practicing it until now and it has been very useful to her especially after she started working and earning her own salary.

Because of her records, she can calculate every year her annual expenses. She even confidently shared how much annual income she needs to survive and even mentioned which year she lived more expensively compared to the other years. She attributed this particular year with high cost of living when she moved to Manila (the capital of Philippines).


If you are like me who disregard the importance of recording daily expenses, then the following points may encourage you to start adopting such financial practice.

Transparency. Have you ever sometimes wonder where did your money go? I oftentimes encounter this situation when I receive extra money like bonus or an incentive. After few days, I ponder what happened to that amount as there is nothing left in my wallet. Tracking your daily expenses will entail detailed transparency in your expenditures.

Knows When Not To Spend. Monitoring your daily spending will give you an idea of your expenditures yesterday or the previous week. It makes it easier to realize that you have been overspending by just looking at your financial records. This is helpful especially when you are setting a daily budget. Once you recognize your overspendings, you can adjust or control your expenditures for the next few days to ensure that you will be in line with your budget until the next salary comes.

How much You can Save. Religiously tracking your expenses can help you save. You will not know from where to cut costs if you do not know where your money goes, right? Your records will show how much you are spending for entertainments or for weekly groceries. Thus, to increase your savings then you must slash your expenditures in your entertainment expenditures.

Setting Target for Next Year. I have been working in the hotel industry for some time now. After midyear, the management will be busy preparing their target and forecast for next year. In order to come up with these figures, they will base it from the previous performance and figures. Similarly, it applies to our personal finance. How can we set our monthly or annual target for next year if we do not know our performance and expenditures for the current year?

These are some of the benefits of tracking your daily expenses. I know that embracing this practice can be daunting. I did it and stopped after few months but now I am doing it for good and for real! :D

Here are some tips to make your daily tracking easier.

  • Ask and keep receipts of your daily purchases
  • Carry always a small notebook and pen in your bag. This is excellent way to jot down expenses while travelling and keeping records for expenses which do not have receipts.
  • Spend 10-15 minutes in the evening to write down your expenses.

Hope it helps! If you have more tips, please feel free to share..

Investing in Stocks..

Earlier this year I started to invest small amount in Philippine stocks because I was inspired by the Truly Rich Club of Bo. Sanchez. I want to give it a try.

By the way, I want to stress. I am not trading stocks. I am investing only which I intend to leave it for certain period of time. Honestly, I am not an expert in stocks investments but I am following the guide of Bo. Sanchez.

So far, it is too early to judge because I just started. Also, my investments are still very minimal though I wanted to increase it at the later stage when my personal financial health is in better condition. Also, I am serious in pursuing this investment while I am still a working expat because I can still afford to spare small amount for investments.

Once I am back for good in Philippines, I know that it will be a difficult task then.

I am really optimistic that this type of investment vehicle will be financially rewarding as long as I have the discipline to invest regularly.

You can click here to learn more about the Truly Rich Club.

Eid Mubarak!

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As today marks the end of Ramadan, I would like to wish Eid Mubarak to all my Muslim friends and colleagues…

Philippine Hospital Bills can Kill you..

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I was admitted in the hospital last weekend as per the recommendation of my doctor. She was quite anxious because during my last ultrasound the heartbeat of my baby was below normal. So, I was confined in the delivery room for 12 hours with some medical device attached to my tummy and my baby’s heartbeat was monitored the entire evening.

Gladly, everything was alright and after two nights in the hospital, I was discharged.

While my sister was busy settling the hospital bills, I was somehow in the state of ignorance. I was not sure how much to expect because I have been out of the country since 2002. I knew it is costly because that is the rant I always hear from the news but I never felt the expensive cost until my sister handed over to me the details of the hospitalization bills.

The two nights in the hospital along with the laboratories and other tests costed me Php 13,000 (approx  USD 325).

My medical bills made me think. Just imagine that I paid already such amount for two days only. What will happen to those patients who have complicated illness and require intensive medications or treatments? What happen if they cannot afford the cost of hospitalization bills?

It really made me think and in a way scares me.. I should have always a health fund in case such needs arise (though God forbids!).

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